Through all my years of dealing with personal trauma and witnessing others work through personal trauma, I have found one ritual activity that always provides some real relief: the write & burn ritual. The basic format is to get a piece of paper and pencil, and write stream of consciousness about the subject that is bothering you or write a letter directly to the person who is causing any upsetting or weird feelings. You write TOTALLY UNEDITED. No one else will ever see this letter, for you will very quickly burn it. It is a space for you to really feel and express all you feel without trying to make it better in anyway. Just write down the whole of what comes to you… all your thoughts and feelings. Then re read it and witness for yourself. Then you burn the letter and while it burns you pray for the highest good. Today I had made a small fire in my yard to celebrate the sunshine. I needed to get rid of the Christmas tree which makes for a bright but quick fire. As it burned I wrote all kinds of things that were making me worried or sad or angry and then I prayed for those feelings to leave my body and mind as I watched the fire turn them first to light and then smoke and then ash. What came up for me was a lot of fears about worse case scenarios and it felt good to clear those rumblings, but also sorrow about those being hurt. It was a lovely way to clear out all the feelings I no longer want to carry inside of me. This ritual is an invitation to create transformation. I wasn’t really feeling that bad when I started but I sure did feel lighter when I ended, and the bright fire was a fun way to be outside. If you want to do the ritual without a fire get a large bowl of water and a pair of tongs. Put letter in tongs and light and hold over bowl of water. Remember to pray while the letter is burning. The letter is all your thoughts and feelings, the prayer is your highest idea or dream of the situation. I love to do this ritual because it just feels so freeing and releasing.